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10 Female Sexuality Books every Woman should know

Updated: Nov 16, 2023

Since the pandemic, there's been an uptick in adult nonfiction book sales, with 322,564 units sold over the last year. That equates to an increase of 4.4%.

Are we astonished about that? Not at all!

We think that real personal contacts, feelings and sex gained have rightly gained importance!

But we all know that it is not really easy to be sexually explorative and self-confident - as well as woman and as a man!

We've probably all at least once been inexperienced or unsure in a sexy encounter or have experienced a phase in life where our sexuality is changing.

Therefore, it is vital to acquire as much knowledge as possible about oneself, but also about one's sexuality. And to be open, read, learn... and try!

So if you want to take the next step in your personal love life, turning to the bookshelves is our recommendation. There are thousands of books dedicated to the sexual pleasure of women, allowing more women to explore their sexuality with abandon.

So if you're looking to put a little pep into your sex life, keep reading. We're serving you up a dose of the ten best female sexuality books for you to add to your reading list.

Picture showing a self-confident and sexually explorative woman used in an article about female sexuality books

#1 Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters–And How to Get It by Laurie Mintz

Cover of Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz which is one of the best Female Sexuality Books for Women of every age

This book is written by Dr. Laurie Mintz, a psychology professor and human sexuality expert.

It cunningly navigates the subject of the female orgasm as Dr. Mintz examines how the female orgasm differs from men's.

This is a no-holds-barred approach to orgasm equality, with sections dedicated to techniques for "cliterate sex." There's even a section dedicated to men which addresses sexual myths.

Becoming Cliterate won the 2019 Consumer Book Of The Year award, presented by the Society for Sex Therapy and Research.

Furthermore, studies on this book have shown that reading this book actively helps women have better sexual experiences.

While this book targets women, we can't help but recommend it to all genders as there is something to learn for everyone.

#2 F*cked: Being Sexually Explorative and Self-Confident in a World That's Screwed by Krystyna Hutchinson and Corinne Fisher

Cover of F*cked which is a great book about the real Female Sexuality and all the needs and desires women have

If you've heard of the top-rated podcast "Guys We Fucked: The Anti Slut-Shaming Podcast," you'll be excited to pick up this book.

Corinne Fisher and Krystyna Hutchinson take no prisoners when they interview, well, guys they've fucked.

Their podcast covers everything from kinks to trauma and assault, which is perfectly translated into this spin-off book.

This is your book if you want to hear things how they are, with no sugar coating. These ladies expertly navigate subjects like:

  • Shame

  • Sexual Exploration (and subsequent ER visits!)

  • Uncomfortable questions to ask your partner

  • Sex toys, butt play, masturbation, and more

Whether in a relationship or fabulously single, you're bound to find something you can relate to in this book.

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#3 She Comes First by Ian Kerner

She comes first is an important book every sexually active man should read as it explains how Female Pleasure works

While we're focusing on female pleasure books in this post, we felt we had to include She Comes First by Ian Kerner.

Written by a man for men, this is a book everyone who dates men should have on hand.

From the author that brought you "Be Honest - You're Not That Into Him Either; this book delves into the titillating act of oral sex.

Unfortunately, far too many men have little to no knowledge of what makes a woman tick down there, and this book aims to change that by addressing how to perform better oral sex by offering techniques and philosophies.

We recommend you buy this book and leave it on the coffee table for the man in your life to pick up and read.

Then, buy this book for your husband, boyfriend, or even your girlfriend (you have to have their back, too, after all).

#4 Fear of Flying by Erica Jong

Cover picture of Fear of Flying which is one of the best fiction books about Female Sexuality and Female Sexual Fantasies

If you want to take a break from nonfiction, we recommend picking up Fear of Flying by Erica Jong.

This fiction novel is a #1 New York Times bestseller about women and marriage.

It follows the life of a female protagonist, Isadora Wing, as she navigates her husband, marriage, and divorce. In addition, this book takes you through a series of Isadora's sexual fantasies and encounters, through which she does some intense self-discovery.

We recommend this sexually liberating book if you want to spend a cozy evening indoors snuggled under a blanket.

If you choose the ebook, it features never-before-seen documents and rare photos from Jong's personal collection.

#5 My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday

Picture showing the cover of My Secret Garden which is a great book about sexual fantasies of real women and depicts the real depth of women's sexuality

This novel, written by Nancy Friday, is not one for the tame at heart.

In this book, Nancy expertly compiles a collection of sexual fantasies of real women she interviewed and received letters from. Published in 1973, this book caused quite a stir among conservatives with its shocking content.

This book heavily focuses on female masturbation and is a part of Nancy's Sexuality Collection. Other titles in this collection include:

  • The Power of Beauty

  • Jealousy

  • Forbidden Flowers

  • Women on Top

We give you fair warning, some themes in this book may make you uncomfortable (such as one woman's fantasy that included the dog next door), so read this book with an open mind.

There is also an audiobook version available for the more discrete.

#6 Tipping the Velvet by Sarah Waters

Tipping the Velvet is a fiction book about lesbian sexuality

This book of fiction, penned by Sarah Waters, is set in 1888 England.

It follows the story of Nan King, who shucks oysters in her father's restaurant, and her love affair with a male impersonater, Kitty.

This story takes you on a journey in lesbian fiction, so if you're looking for an LGBTQ+ book, this is the one to pick. This book will immerse you in self-discovery as Nan learns she is attracted to another woman.

Does she disappoint her family, who have always assumed she'd marry her fiance and follow her heart?

The New York Times review described this novel as "erotic and absorbing," and who are we to argue?

Cover of Girls & Sex which is the best book about Female Sexuality for young girls and women to discover and navigate the sexual landscape

Peggy Orenstein, author of the bestseller Cinderella Are My Daughter, has penned a new book on navigating the new sexual landscape that girls find themselves in from high school to college.

This book reveals deep, insightful interviews with more than seventy women, academics, psychologists, and experts.

Peggy skillfully makes her way through tough topics like porn and rape, challenging lessons, and hidden truths, exploring the sex lives of girls in today's climate.

This comprehensive guide is highly recommended to young women to help them navigate a complicated new era.

Girls & Sex has been lauded as a New York Times Bestseller, a Time Top 10 Book of the Year, and a San Francisco Chronicle Book of the Year.

Cover of 44 Chapters about 4 men which is a funny and hilarious fiction female sexuality book which depicts female sexuality whith often ruthless honesty

If you're in the mood for something humorous, we recommend checking out 44 Chapters About 4 Men - a witty, hilarious-but-serious look at female sexuality, often with ruthless honesty.

Self-proclaimed "domesticated bad girl" takes us through her past experiences with ex-boyfriends and how those wild days contrast with her perfectly uneventful husband.

Deciding to get her sexual fantasies and frustration out on paper, she pens a journal in secret, firmly believing no one will ever know about it - that is until her husband finds it.

Follow the journey of one woman's secret journal and how she uses it to completely transform her sex life for the better...most of the time.

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#9 Tantric Orgasm For Women by Diana Richardson

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Anyone who's watched the movie American Pie knows all about tantric sex thanks to Paul Finch, so we present to you Tantric Orgasm For Women by Diana Richardson, number nine in our list of female pleasure books.

If you're searching for something more spiritual to enhance your sex life, this is your book to purchase. Focusing in particular on female sexual arousal and satisfaction for women, this book offers insight into how women can heighten their sexual female pleasure and embrace sexuality.

Furthermore, this book encourages women to abandon conventional ideas that society deems satisfactory for women. Diana also includes tantric meditations and exercises, which aid in developing a new-found inner awareness.

If you want to learn about female sexuality and are interested in more books on tantric sex, take a peek here.

Cover of Sex for One which is an important book for women to learn everything about self-love and masturbation which is an important part of the sexuality of women

As this article is tailored toward women, we would be remiss not to include Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving by Betty Dodson, Ph.D., in our top ten.

Focusing on the act of masturbation, this guide is a no-nonsense look at this crucial form of sexuality.

Betty draws the reader's attention to the act of self-love and how it can be incredibly satisfying to practice.

She addresses the taboos and shame associated with masturbation and explains that anyone can learn to make love to themselves without shame.

Since this book addresses masturbation in general, we can also recommend this book for any gender.

In addition, mutual masturbation is also covered, making this an excellent book for couples.

Which Female Sexuality Books Are You Going to Read?

For too long, women have shied away from exploring their sexuality, pleasure, and satisfaction, and it's a welcome change to see more books addressing female sexuality.

Female sexuality books can be incredibly empowering to read, so we at Filthybooks strongly encourage you to add any of these books to your reading list.

Which ones will you choose?

If this list piqued your interest, you could check out these Fiction Filthy Books from our collection.

And a special tip for all of you who want to find more quality information on how to improve your personal love life, should have a look at the best sex position and tantric sex books or pick up some special inspiration from the best sex poems and erotic poems.

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